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The peace of self-acceptance Finding, living in your own comfort zone

Written by Easter Becker-Smith. Posted in Featured, Health & Wellness, Uncategorized

Published on October 02, 2013 with No Comments

"Be the hero to yourself"

I recently returned to my hometown in St. Louis to attend my high school reunion. I flew out of Midway Airport and, as I waited at the gate, there was a family with a baby and a 3-year-old son. The boy wore a red Superman shirt and red Captain America shorts. He was adorable. Everyone at the gate area looked at him, smiled, grinned and many people commented to the parents about how cute he was. A couple in their 60s laughed and said they knew they were safe with a superhero boarding the plane with them.

The toddler was totally unaware of all the adoration for him. He was just happy as could be, surrounded by his parents, his brother, and he was wearing his favorite shirt and shorts. He did not care what anyone thought of him or how he was dressed. He was comfortable with himself inside and out. After all, he was only 3 years old. He had not reached the age of worrying or even caring about other kids’ or adults’ opinions of himself. He was blissful and carefree.

That evening a friend I met in the fourth grade and with whom I graduated from high school picked me up. That way we could go to the first night of the weekend-long reunion events together. As we rode downtown, we tried to remember when the last reunion was that we attended. We both remembered that we could not make it to the reunion from…was it five years ago, or 10? We were not sure.

What my friend did remember was that, “Oh yes, I did not want to go because I was too heavy.” Then she paused, chuckled and grinned, “And now I weigh more than I did then.” We both laughed and I responded, “And it doesn’t matter. Who cares how much anyone weighs. It will just be so good to see classmates we haven’t seen in years.”

It was so wonderful to reconnect with our former classmates. We both looked forward to the next evening where we knew we would see old friends who did not show up on Friday night. I picked up my friend, she looked happy and relaxed and ready for a fun evening. She admired my outfit. I told her that my husband had bought the pencil-style skirt for me seven, maybe 10, years ago. I liked it and had it altered so I could keep it and still enjoy wearing. I had bought the top I was wearing last year, although I had only realized this year that they went together well.

I paused, looked at my friend and grinned. “Now when have I ever been to some special event and not felt like I needed to go buy something new, or make sure I was in the latest fashion?” We agreed that maybe this is part of getting older, but getting better.

It feels good to come full circle from the carefree 3 year old who feels good about himself or herself to the adult who feels the same. It takes most of us a long time to wind around that circle. We spend so much time in our lives worrying about what others think of us. If we live a life of strong morals and principles then, truly, what concern is there about others’ opinions of us? There is none.

There is a huge freedom in feeling comfortable with yourself, inside and out. There is no stress or worry about who you are. Some people find that comfort zone early in life, but it is safe to say that most of us take many years to accept ourselves for who we are. Some people never find the peace of self acceptance.

The mental picture of the Superman, Captain America boy sums it up. Be the hero to yourself. Find some level of self acceptance and start from there. Keep building your self-comfort zone by reminding yourself it is wonderful to be the magnificent you that you are. Full acceptance of you is a freedom so fantastic that it feels like flying through the air faster than a speeding bullet. It truly is super.

 

All opinions, conclusions or recommendations expressed are solely those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the views of The Chronicle. Easter Becker-Smith provides coaching for individuals, groups and corporate teams.  She coaches individuals to help them discover their own path to balance and fulfillment in their lives.  She brings her years of experience in business as a highly regarded leader to help companies improve their productivity and efficiency by learning how to better communicate with each other.  Visit her website at www.coacheaster.com.

 

 

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“There is a huge freedom in feeling comfortable with yourself, inside and out.”

 

–Easter Becker-Smith

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All opinions, conclusions or recommendations expressed are solely those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the views of The Chronicle. Easter Becker-Smith provides coaching for individuals, groups and corporate teams.  She coaches individuals to help them discover their own path to balance and fulfillment in their lives.  She brings her years of experience in business as a highly regarded leader to help companies improve their productivity and efficiency by learning how to better communicate with each other.  Visit her website at www.coacheaster.com.

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