Survey reveals moving to a new home stresses relationships- Almost half report fighting, money problems and decreased intimacy

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Published on February 25, 2015 with No Comments

In today’s world, a move to a new home may damage more than your personal belongings.

A new, local survey reveals moving also scars personal relationships as couples fight over why they moved and where they moved while struggling with money problems and decreased intimacy.  And talk about relationship revenge in a move.  Nearly 1 in 3 survey respondents admitted to “accidentally losing” a significant other’s prized possession or purposefully tossing it in the Goodwill bag.

The recently-released survey, commissioned by Our Town America, comes at the start of the busiest moving time of the year.   More than 40 million Americans are expected to relocate this year and most will make their move during summer months when the weather is favorable and kids are out of school.

The local survey of more than 300 men and women who have moved in the past five years reveals:

•Of those in a relationship, more than one-third (35 percent) say moving has scarred their relationship due to increased fighting (51 percent), decreased intimacy (49 percent) and financial strain (49 percent) – the top three moving relationship stressors.

•Forty-six percent of respondents say they disagreed over where to move and 42 percent say they fought over the reason for the move – negative feelings that can linger long after they unpacked the china.

•Those with children say the stress hit the whole family with “choosing the right school” and “helping the kids find new friends” as the top two moving stressors related to their kids.

Dirty Dumping 

•Nearly 1 in 3 (30 percent) respondents admitted they had “accidentally” lost one of their partner’s prized possessions by “accidentally breaking it” (43 percent) or dropping it off at Goodwill “by accident” (34 percent).

•Topping the “I Hate It” hit list of the five things people secretly toss are knick knacks, photo albums, books, decorative towels and old trophies.

“These survey results show that moving is highly stressful for relationships so it’s critical for neighbors and local business to make the transition easier,” said Michael Plummer, president and CEO of Our Town America. “In a move, people are overwhelmed with learning new roads, meeting people and perhaps starting a new job, so we help local business owners deliver personalized housewarming gifts to ease the stress.”

Unfriendly Neighbors Add to Moving Stress

•More than half (53 percent) of the respondents said that today’s neighbors are not as friendly as the neighbors they remember as a child because they “seem too busy.”

•This is unfortunate as nearly half of respondents (49 percent) also voted “meeting new neighbors” as a top three requirement to feeling comfortable and settled in a new home.

Housewarming Gifts Matter

•More than half (54 percent) of survey respondents have moved six or more times and more than two in three (67 percent) have moved out of state or out of the country.  Today’s movers need a helping hand to feel comfortable and learn more about their brand new surroundings.

•Eighty-eight percent of respondents said that receiving a housewarming gift would make them feel more comfortable in a new home/neighborhood, yet less than half (46 percent) have ever received a housewarming gift when new to a neighborhood.

•Eighty-one percent of respondents said they would have liked advice about their new community upon move in;  93 percent say they would take advantage of an offer from a local business that took the time to welcome them to the community.

All opinions, conclusions or recommendations expressed are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the views of The Chronicle.  For more than 40 years, Our Town America has been providing new movers with traditional hospitality by mailing housewarming gifts from local neighborhood businesses.  For more information, visit www.ourtownamerica.com.

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